Let me ask you something. When was the last time you sat still for more than 30 seconds without reaching for your phone?
If you had to think about that… that’s exactly what pushed me to run this experiment in February.
For 30 days, I went off social media and coffee. Not as a detox. Not as some wellness challenge to post about. But because I was genuinely getting annoyed at myself.
I wasn’t doom scrolling for hours or anything dramatic. But there was this low-grade pull… this constant need to check my phone. And I was like, right. That’s enough.
So I did something about it.
And what I discovered was confronting… but also incredibly freeing. Because it turns out this isn’t really about willpower at all.
That’s what I’m diving into in this episode. The science behind dopamine addiction loops, and how things like social media and caffeine quietly shape your energy, your focus, and your baseline mood, often without you even realising it.
I also share what actually happened in those first few days (it wasn’t easy), the unexpected shifts that followed, and why so many of us aren’t actually “low energy”… we’re just constantly coming down from stimulation spikes.
This isn’t about quitting everything forever. I’m back on social media and having some coffee, but I’m smarter, wiser and more in tune with the impacts of my actions.
So let’s start asking a better question: What’s actually running you right now?
And deciding, with intention, what gets to stay.
What You’ll Learn:
- The real reason willpower alone will never fix your phone addiction (and what will)
- How social media uses the same psychological mechanism as slot machines to keep you hooked
- What caffeine is actually doing in your brain (hint: it’s not giving you energy)
- The surprising personal shifts I experienced across 30 days — the good, the weird, and the unexpectedly emotional
- Why boredom might be one of the most powerful (and lost) skills you can rebuild
- How fragmented attention is impacting your ability to do deep, meaningful work
Key Takeaways:
Willpower Isn’t the Problem, the Design Is. These platforms have had billions of dollars and the world’s smartest minds poured into making them addictive. The fact that you can’t just “put it down” isn’t a character flaw. It’s by design. And once you understand that, everything shifts.
Dopamine Is About Anticipation, Not Reward. It’s not the like or the message that releases dopamine, it’s the anticipation of it. That’s why you keep checking even when there’s nothing there. Your brain is literally asking “is there something new for me?” on a loop.
Caffeine Doesn’t Give You Energy, It Hides Your Tiredness. Caffeine blocks adenosine, the chemical that makes you feel tired. So you’re not suddenly more energised, you just temporarily can’t feel how exhausted you actually are. And with a half-life of five to seven hours, that afternoon flat white is still in your system at bedtime.
Boredom Is a Skill We’ve Lost, and We Need It Back. One of the most profound things I noticed was how uncomfortable I was with doing nothing. And then how beautiful it became once I leaned into it. Gazing out the window. Walking without a podcast. Sitting with my own thoughts. This is where the good stuff lives.
You Don’t Need to Quit, You Need to Choose. Social media and coffee aren’t inherently bad. But unconscious use is where things start to take over. The goal isn’t elimination, it’s intentionality.
Key Resources:
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Listen to the episode with my hubby, Josh Vial on AI and using it as your “digital hands”: Why most people are using AI wrong and how to make it work for you with Joshua Vial
A little reminder: You are not your habits. You are the pilot.
And the moment you start questioning what’s running you — the phone, the coffee, the noise — is the moment you take back the controls.
That’s what this experiment taught me. And I hope it sparks something in you too!